Hey, sister! Welcome back to a Taylored Adventure to Happiness. If you are new, welcome! If you are a regular, I love ya, I love ya, I love ya!
If you’ve been around here for any length of time, you know I’m always working on connecting with and living out my divine self in a deeper and more powerful way. I recently flexed a new muscle in this area that I want to tell you about. When I say a muscle, it’s not my biceps, glutes, or back. (Can you flex your back? Yeah, I guess you can.) This muscle I’m talking about is a mindfulness muscle. I call it a muscle because no matter where you are in your self-development growth journey, it’s constant fucking work. Do you hear me?
Like right when we think we’ve got our shit together, we’re finally feeling elevated, confident, and like we know how to handle situations BOOM something goes not as planned! Have you ever had one of those moments where things weren’t going the way that you wanted, or someone said something that triggered you, and you immediately reacted as your past self?
That can be so discouraging, right? Like, is it even worth taking three steps forward if you’re going to take two steps back?
This mindfulness muscle I’ve been flexing has helped me feel so much more empowered in these situations. Honestly, the happiest, most successful, and joyful people in my life all flex this muscle without even thinking about it — it’s as automatic to them as breathing. So, what is this muscle? I’m glad you asked! It’s called perspective.
Perspective is something I strive for moment by moment in EVERY area of life, especially when things go awry. Perspective helps me feel less out of control, fills me with renewed purpose, and reminds me that three steps forward and two steps back is still progress. I hope that by the end of this you feel the same!
If you’re tired of feeling emotionally tossed around by the circumstances of life and ready to move through life like the unshakable goddess you are, then keep reading!
What Is Perspective?
When something doesn’t go your way or you get triggered, your mind naturally assigns the situation a meaning and typically an outcome. More often than not, your brain reframes the situation as personal jab like, “I’m not good enough,” or “I’m not wanted,” and the outcome is negative. Your identity is re-written in seconds, and in your mind’s eye, you know how this whole thing ends.
But what if you could challenge those thoughts? What if you could actually question, choose, and replace the meaning and outcome your brain naturally assigns to events and triggers? That’s exactly what perspective allows you to do.
Merriam Webster defines “perspective” as a mental view or prospect and the capacity to view things in their true relations or relative importance. You can also physically draw things with perspective making them look 3-D. In other words, perspective is the ability to look at something or a situation from all sides keeping in mind how it fits into the big picture. This view can be in your mind’s eye or your physical eye, but today, we’re going to talk about it specifically in the context of your mind’s eye.
When our minds’ eyes immediately see a story with a negative meaning and depressing ending, that’s ONE side of the story. But seeing things with perspective means we see things from ALL sides as well as how they fit into the big picture.
The next time you think, “Oh my gosh, I must be doing something wrong. I shouldn’t have done this. Why am I even starting a business? I’m never going to get to work with the women that I want to work with,” I want you to think, “This is a moment for me to flex my perspective muscle. This is a moment for me to slow down, look at all the sides of this situation, and how it fits into the big picture. This is a moment for me to ask the Universe, ‘What’s the silver lining here?’”
Shift into a Positive Perspective by Choosing Empowering Thoughts
After I’ve slowed down enough to recognize my negative thoughts and the opportunity I have to see the silver lining, I choose an empowering thought to replace my disempowering thought.
For example, let’s say that you’ve created a course at a premium price point. You’re ready and grateful to welcome any woman who is like, “Oh my God, she’s talking to me” because she’s the perfect fit. You’re also ready and grateful to say “no” to anyone who isn’t aligned with your course. You even carefully crafted the messaging of the sales page so that it would drive away anyone who isn’t aligned.
But you get behind on your launch date and receive less than half of the traffic to your sales page that you had planned. Your brain immediately tells you, “I’m always late. Things don’t ever work out for me.” That’s when you need to take a deep breath and ask yourself, “What’s a more empowering, feel-good, from-my-gut-to-my-heart perspective on this?”
How about this? “Not having as much traffic as I wanted and not filling my course means…”
“…I get extra time to listen to a podcast or a YouTube training video on a topic that I want to grow in.”
“…I now have time to dive into an audiobook or call my mom and check on my best friend.”
“…I get to connect a little deeper with myself, sit in silence in the car and just be.”
It’s important to choose a feel-good thought because we can’t evolve and become better humans and attract abundance in our life unless we’re vibing at a high level. If we’re always falling prey to a negative perspective, we’re low-vibe, and there’s no need to level up or change. After all, we’re just going to take three steps forward to take two steps back, right? That kind of thinking attracts negative outcomes.
I talk about this often, “Where our attention goes, energy flows.” If we stay in our negative thought patterns, we will attract negative outcomes because we’re focused on negative things. Or we can choose a positive thought and watch it positively affect our entire life!
What To Do If You Tend to Be Negative
If you’re reading this and thinking, “Fuck, this isn’t for me!” Or if you always want to look for the negative in everything because it always seems more realistic to you, ask yourself, “Why am I addicted to pain?”
I know that might sound a little crazy. But, the truth is, if you are more attracted to a negative perspective than a positive one, you probably subconsciously believe that you gain something from having a negative perspective. “Negative Nancys” frequently have an underlying belief that sticking to the negative perspective will get them attention from others or protection from disappointment.
Ready for a change? Here are five questions to help you understand yourself better and welcome positivity:
- When do I remember first choosing negative thoughts?
- What do I get when I complain or speak negatively?
- Who am I when I choose only to see the negative in every situation?
- What kind of energy do I have when I’m choosing a negative perspective?
- Am I my highest self when I choose to look at the negative?
You might get attention and protection from looking at the world with a negative perspective. You might even feel like you’re gaining something by looking at the world with a negative outlook, but can you imagine what the world has for you if you looked at it with a positive perspective?
Sister, choosing a positive perspective and entertaining empowering thoughts is a fucking superpower that creates a ripple effect of positive things in your life!
How a Positive Perspective Serves the World
Can you imagine anything more beautiful or powerful than being your fullest self and watching that inspire others to be their fullest brightest selves? I can’t. That’s why I LOVE this quote by Marianne Williamson:
“Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.” – Marianne Williamson
As you choose to have a positive perspective and be the highest version of yourself, you’re unblocking abundant opportunities for yourself and others. This is not band-aiding the shit in your life. It’s doing the hard fucking work that we talked about earlier. You have to work through the shit. Feel it. Embrace it. Embody it. Feel awful. Feel mad. Feel resentful. Feel sad. But then move forward. Ask yourself what the most empowering thought you could have at the moment is. And chose a positive perspective.
Can you do that? Can you commit to that? Because when you’re that kind of high-vibe person, you set an example for those around you to do the same. When you are your highest self, people around you can’t help but feel your vibration. And while that might annoy or trigger a few of them in the beginning, but if they really want more in their life, they’re going to stay close and eventually rise with you. And when they rise with you, everyone wins. How fucking powerful is that?!
Why You Need To Listen To This Episode Right Now…
Sister, let’s set the example for what it looks like to live high-vibe with a positive perspective. Let’s commit to finding the gift in everything instead of complaining and focusing on the negative. Let’s flex that positive perspective muscle because it truly is a superpower that ignites the superpower of those around us. You with me?
If this hit home for you or if this was a message that you know you needed, go ahead and screenshot this and post it on your IG story. Tag me (@iamtaylorsimpson). I would love for this to be your sign of commitment to choosing a positive perspective and flexing that muscle!
If you know someone who’s a “Negative Nancy,” don’t forget to slip this episode right into their inbox or text it to them. You could even have it “randomly” playing when you’re road-tripping with that person or making dinner together. For real, though! That’s what I used to do to Johnny. When it came to like money mindset or masculine and feminine energy, I would just *happen* to play it in the car. How ironic?! Sometimes we gotta do what we gotta do, to lift others up, amiright?
Beautiful soul, I am so incredibly grateful that you take time out of your day to read this content! I don’t take your time here or attention lightly. So, here’s a reminder that I see you, I love you, and we’re totally in this together — building our lives, our businesses, and our divine selves.
I’m already looking forward to chatting with you in the next podcast. Until then, don’t forget to always choose happiness, because, why the fuck not?
+ Are you comparing yourself to others?
+ Getting stronger
+ Flexing your perspective muscle
+ The most positive way through any situation
+ Connecting a little deeper to yourself
+ Are your thoughts empowering you?
+ Reaching out for support
+ We have to be dedicated to grow and rise up
+ Choosing to move forward
+ Why are you addicted to pain?
+ Do you get attention when you get negative?
+ Lifting your vibrations!
+ When you rise vibrations with your tribe, everybody wins
+ Be the example, set the example
+ When we have a positive viewpoint, we live the life of our dreams
+ Find the gift on everything
“We need to accept what is happening and that it comes with something better for us.”
“How we put ourselves out there, is how we receive.”
“We need to stop victimizing ourselves and look for the positive stuff.”