Tools to Manage Overwhelm and Anxiety Amongst The Pain of the World : Episode 225


Hi sister! Welcome back to another episode of a Taylored Adventure to Happiness. If you are new, welcome! If you are a regular, I love you, I love you, I love you!

How are you? No, really, how are you? A lot is going on in the world. I know that pandemic is still happening, and there’s this whole debate raging around ‘Should we wear masks? Should we not wear masks? Who should be wearing them?’

There’s also all the racial tension going on right now, and it is so painful. People are dying who should not be dying. Period. Other people are crying out, saying, “I can’t breathe. I can’t breathe.” And there are governments with their own agendas allowing those people and to die and to hurt to promote those agendas.

It’s a heavy time. I’m an empath, so I feel your pain. All this energy of overwhelm, anxiety, fear, sadness, and confusion is swirling around — it’s hard for all of us. So if you’re feeling any or all of those things — hey, congratulations. You’re human, and you have feelings. You’re experiencing the collective consciousness and the pain it feels right now, and you can’t just turn away and be like, “Nope. Rainbows and unicorns.” You’ve got to fucking face reality and figure out how to keep going and heal in all the chaos.

Remember what I always say: When you heal, I heal. And when I heal, you heal. We are all in this together, ladies. So today, I want to share with you the five best tools to help you deal with your confusion and overwhelm and pain so that we can all heal together.

And keep in mind — if any of my advice doesn’t feel right to you, that’s fine! Fucking skip it and move on. Do what feels good, and don’t do what doesn’t feel good. Your intuition is strong, and you have permission to do what you need to do to take care of yourself and heal.

So with that, let’s get into my list of five practices and modalities that you can use when you’re feeling the weight of the world.

Number 1: Does This Feel Good?

During hard times like these, it’s easy to have a lot of emotions piling up inside you. That’s why it’s so important to identify those emotions and then ask yourself, “Does this feel good to me?” And of course, I don’t mean like, “I feel angry. Does that feel good?” Of course, it never feels good to be angry, but does it feel right? Ask yourself, “Is this feeling good? Does this belief feel good to me?”

Then take it a step further. If your emotion or thought of belief feels good to you, ask yourself why it feels good. If it doesn’t, ask why it doesn’t. Don’t shove your feelings away and just say, “You know, this doesn’t feel good, but I don’t really feel like diving into why it doesn’t feel good, and I don’t even know where to start.” When you take the time to unpack your feelings and peel back those layers, that’s when fucking growth happens. That’s what allows you to stand up and make a change.

If we don’t like what’s going on, but we don’t take the time to go deep and do something about it, we don’t help our brothers and sisters. We don’t find healing for ourselves, and as a result, the collective consciousness doesn’t heal either. Now more than ever, it is vital to look deep into your feelings and discover why you feel or don’t feel a certain way about something.

This is why, when I work with clients, I like to work with very small groups of ladies. I work with only a few women at a time so that we can take the time for each of us to do the deep work of healing. And I am continually reminding the women who work with me that when you heal, your sister heals.

So dive deep. Commit to moving into the pain. Breathe into it until you find the root of the problem, and then come back up for air. Seek the deep emotional healing you need, because when you do, we all experience that healing with you.

Number 2: Are You Setting Aside Time to Fill Up Your Cup?

Number two is huge. Filling up your cup is non-negotiable. If you’re not taking care of yourself, there’s no way you can serve others, and the whole collective consciousness suffers.

What are you doing to fill up your cup each day? Let me tell you — a morning ritual is essential to fill up your cup. My full morning ritual takes me three hours. I know that sounds like a lot, but that’s what I need to fill my cup and make sure my energy isn’t depleted so that I can love and serve to my fullest extent.

Let me just walk you through my routine; again, feel free to take from this as it feels good. YOu can replicate my whole routine if you want! Or you can say, “Nope, Taylor, I need to do my own thing.” And that’s fine! Remember: your intuition is strong, trust it.

I start each morning with about 40-45 minutes of meditation. Sometimes I do my own meditations, sometimes I do Dr. Dispenza’s meditations or another guided meditation, I just make sure I have my headphones in and my phone is on airplane mode. Then, I just sit quietly, maybe do some breathing exercises, and open myself up to receive love and joy.

If you’re thinking, “Wow, yes, I really need to start a meditation practice,” and you don’t know where to start, rest assured, I got you, girl! I have a meditation on my website, and it’s totally free! It is light-activated and absolutely magical, so I hope you’ll check it out if you need a new guided meditation.

After I meditate, I do conscious journaling for however long I need. Y’all, journaling needs to be a critical part of your morning ritual. It is so good for getting your juices flowing to put your thoughts down on paper. I like to write down ten things I’m grateful for, then write in response to a question or a prompt, and finally, I write down some intentions and affirmations for myself. I promise you, ladies — journaling is a game-changer. And if you need some inspiration to get you going, text me! If you text 202-217-0704 (Yes, that’s really my number!) and say “Journal,” I’ll text you my favorite journal prompts.

Okay, so after I meditate and after I journal, I read a book. I’m working on a book right now about the divine feminine energy around Mery Magdalen, and it is beautiful and fascinating. I have to set a timer — because otherwise, I would just read all day — but that time spent just reading a book is so useful and educational for me. And guess what! If you need some good book recommendations, I can help you there too. Just text me! Again, my number is 202-217-0704, and if you text me and ask for book recommendations, I’ll send you all my favorite titles about the divine feminine.

After I read for about an hour, I pull out my Oracle cards and read them, and that helps me feel more grounded and helps me receive messages with clarity. Then finally, I’ll put on some pretty music, do some deep diaphragmatic breathing, maybe do some sun salutations to get my body moving, and I’m ready to go out and serve the community.

And that’s it! My full morning ritual. Y’all, my morning routine is critical to help me feel like I have a full cup. But all of those same steps may not work for you, and that’s fine! Borrow from me what feels good, and figure out the rest for yourself. But make sure to fill your cup each morning so you can love and serve your community as much as possible.

Number 3: Are You Checking in on Yourself Throughout the Day?

Are you checking on yourself throughout the day? Do you occasionally just ask yourself, “What do I need right now?” If not, that’s a practice I highly recommend you implement in your life!

As Lightworkers, we tend to give so much of ourselves. Trust me, I know! I’m a giver, and I spend a lot of time supporting and loving others. We want to fucking change the world, and that’s awesome!

But in the midst of all that beautiful generosity, we tend to forget ourselves. Even if we’ve taken the time to go through a morning ritual and we’ve filled up our cup at the beginning of the day, the energy of the world can deplete us quickly, and we can find ourselves feeling discouraged again.

So several times throughout the day, take a moment to check in on yourself. How are you? What do you need right now? Do you need a little break? Do you need a hug? Do you need a cookie? Sometimes you just need a cookie, and that is absolutely okay! Maybe you need some rage music or some sexy music. Maybe you need to take ten or twenty minutes to color. I do that sometimes! Do whatever it is you need to do to make sure your cup stays filled throughout the day.

Find a way to make sure you’re checking in on yourself. Set a timer on your phone if you need to! And if you’re worried about time, just remember — time is an illusion anyway. Your work will get done, but it will leave you feeling exhausted and depleted if you haven’t taken the time to make sure you’re okay.

So ask yourself, right now, “Am I okay? How am I doing? What do I need to do to take care of myself, right now, at this moment?”

Number 4: Are You Checking in on Other People?

This fourth daily practice is the flip side of the third practice. Once you’ve filled up your cup and established a routine of checking in on yourself throughout the day, make sure you’re checking in on other people. 

Think about the strong people in your life — the people who seem like they’ve got it all together. Go ahead and shoot them a quick text that just says, “Hey! How are you doing? How can I support you?” This is so important for our sense of sisterhood and the healing of our collective consciousness. And it’s particularly good to reach out to those who aren’t likely to reach out to us when they need help.

Sometimes it’s hard for tough, strong people to be vulnerable, even in situations where you’re directly asking how you can love and support them. In those cases, sometimes it can be good to lead with a little bit of vulnerability yourself. Reach out to someone and just say, “Hey, I’m just not feeling empowered today. How are you feeling? Can I help you feel more empowered right now?” Or you could say, “I’m feeling really overwhelmed right now! How are you feeling? You came to my mind, and I just wanted to check in on you.”

When you allow yourself to be vulnerable, you create a safe place for even your toughest friends to come to you and experience help and healing. I’m going to repeat myself — when your sister heals, you heal; when you heal, your sister heals. So if you feel comfortable being vulnerable, go ahead and show your vulnerability to your sisters. Just make sure you’re reaching out. Check in on to the people in your family and community. They need your love and care, especially during the chaos and pain we’ve been experiencing recently.

Number 5: Are You Educated About What’s Going On?

My final piece of advice today is this: You must educate yourself about everything that’s going on right now. For example, if you’re feeling overwhelmed and confused about racism, you need to learn about it. And remember to question every source and learn about the issue in several different ways so that your knowledge is broad, and you can heal from some of the confusion you’re feeling.

The same thing applies to anything you’re experiencing doubt or confusion or uncertainty about. If you’re trying to start a business, educate yourself about your industry and about what it’s like to start a business. If you need to become emotionally or mentally or physically healthier, educate yourself on mental health, nutrition, and fitness so you can take care of yourself with confidence.

I know that we often think, “I know I need to be more educated about this thing, but I just don’t know where to start.” That is okay. It is! There is so much information out there, and it can be so hard to sort through it all and figure out what’s true and useful and what isn’t.

But here’s the thing: you just have to start somewhere and work with what you’ve got. And that’s enough! You might think, “Am I missing out on some information? Is there a better place to go to educate myself about this?” The truth is that there might be, but that’s okay. Do you think I know everything there is to know about Quantum expansion and Ascension? I don’t! But I just keep educating myself as much as I can, because that is enough and it is beautiful.

You could follow the Instagram accounts of experts in the area that you want to learn about — they probably post a lot of excellent information. If you’re interested in learning more about spirituality and how you can tap into your superpowers and speak your truth, feel free to follow me, @taylorsimpson. But honestly, wherever you start gathering information is fantastic. As long as you are seeking education and learning and growing, you are contributing to the healing of our collective.

How Are You Today?

I want to ask you one more time: How are you? Are you doing okay? Do you feel empowered? Or do you feel overwhelmed, confused, and anxious?

It’s okay if you’re feeling any of those things. Our structures are falling apart, and it’s a difficult time. But here’s the good news: We want everything to fall apart. When everything falls apart, we have the opportunity to love again. We have the opportunity to do deep, soul-level work and experience healing, even on a global scale.

Here’s the thing: When you take the time to implement the practices we’ve talked about today, your vibration rises. And when your vibration rises, other people see that and feel empowered to raise their own vibrations. And that’s a beautiful fucking thing.

Just by choosing to raise your vibration to a higher level, you empower other people to do the same. And they, in turn, empower other people until we are all vibrating at a higher frequency. We’re all learning. We’re all healing.

I love you all so much. If this episode was helpful to you — if you’re like, “Yes, Taylor, thank you so much, I feel empowered and inspired now”! — please screenshot this episode on your phone and post it! Go ahead and tag me, @taylorsimpson. I would love to check in with you and see how you’re doing! Also, remember that you can follow my Instagram or just text me at 202-217-0704 if you want my free journal prompts or my best book recommendations as you implement journaling and reading practices into your daily routine! And finally, feel free to check out my free guided meditation here.

Thanks for checking out this episode, sisters. I hope it empowered you to fill up your cup, get educated, and start healing from all the chaos and the pain in the world. Now go out there and choose happiness — because, well, why the fuck not?

I’ll talk to you later, sister!

In This Episode You Will Hear:

  • How are you feeling right now?
  • Working through the collective
  • Not seeing eye to eye with those around you
  • The tools to equip you during this time.
  • Lean into the uncomfortable
  • Filling your cup up
  • Morning rituals
  • Support and vulnerability