Hi sister! Welcome back to another episode of A Taylored Adventure to Happiness. If you are new, welcome! If you are a regular, you know I love you!
If you’ve been with me for a while, you know that our frequency is everything. Our vibration creates a field around us that attracts things we want and things we don’t want. When our vibration is high, we’re going to attract opportunities, people, financial prosperity, and romance. In other words, abundance. When our vibration is low, we’re going to attract unhealthy or unwanted situations, or we will block ourselves from receiving good.
What’s not commonly understood is how our repressed or unexpressed emotions lower our frequency. So having stagnant, stuck feelings is not only uncomfortable or downright painful, but it can actually create blocks in all areas of our lives. It’s attracting the opposite of the #abundantAF life you deserve.
Today, we’re going to talk about emotions and self-expression, but we’re going to do it in a whole new way. I’ll illuminate the link between emotions and the frequency which directs your life experience. I’ll cover why so many of us have difficulty embodying our emotions and why that is. I’ll also share with you how this repression manifested in my life, creating the very issues that drove me to pursue this path of self-growth. Finally, I’ll uncover the juicy experiences that lie waiting on the other side of embodiment and emotional liberation. Let’s get started!
How Repressed Emotions Keep You Stuck
Let’s face it — most of us weren’t taught how to deeply feel and express emotions in a healthy way. We can’t really blame anyone for it. Our parents were doing the best they could. Most of us weren’t taught how to be assertive without being aggressive, how to be sad without feeling unworthy, or even how to value the emotions themselves. We’re meant to feel but we’re not meant to carry stagnant, old emotions in our bodies and minds that surface when we least expect them to and control our actions.
I find this to be especially true for women. We’re inherently more emotional creatures, and that’s a good thing! Your emotions are guideposts to show you where you are aligned and unaligned, to show you in which direction you should go and where you should not go. It’s a beautiful thing to have emotions, yet the repression of all things feminine is ancient. So many women walk around with unexpressed sadness, anger, and resentment. Considering the experiences most of us have had as women, it’s no wonder we’ve felt these things. But since anger is especially taboo for us, we’ve allowed it to fester inside us, to damage us and our relationships.
I’m going to share something with you that I haven’t been able to share before. If you’ve been with me for a while, you know that I started on the self-development path after reaching rock bottom. And many of you know that, for me, my bottom was anger management. What I haven’t shared is just how bad my anger management problem was. I was a hitter — I hit my ex-husband multiple times. I didn’t know how to manage physical exertion. I didn’t know how to manage the rage running through my body — that fight or flight reaction that courses through us when we’re triggered.
Prior to this, starting as a child and into adulthood, I used to break things whenever I didn’t know how to express my emotions. That’s what eventually led to me actually physically hitting my ex-husband. After I would hit him, I would apologize profusely. You see, I was basically blacked out when it would happen. Afterward, I would go into a very childlike state of crying, feeling confused, and feeling overwhelmed. I didn’t know how to process what I’d done. But it would happen again and again, until that one day I just knew I needed help. I needed to learn how to actually feel and express this rage that was going on inside of me.
So again, that’s something I’ve never shared before. I know it’s time for me to share it with you now because we are in this great awakening. We’re coming into a new earth. Things will be done differently on the new earth, and that includes embodying emotions.
We need this. How many of you weren’t taught how to feel emotions, ranging from the most challenging to the most beautiful? How many of you felt sad and had a parent that would say “You’re fine. You’ll be ok. Stop crying,” and you’d basically minimize your feelings? How many of you were shamed for feeling anger or told to go to your room if you spoke up about something that upset you? How many of you were praised when you expressed happiness but rejected when you felt resentment or sadness?
We can’t blame our parents. Don’t forget that many of them weren’t taught how to feel emotions either. Therefore, they’re afraid of those emotions that they’ve repressed in themselves. So of course they are going to feel uncomfortable seeing it in others. They’re not going to understand what the value of emotions are — let alone how to deal with them.
Were you taught to feel joy? Were you celebrated for being yourself? Or were you told to change your behaviors, to go after dreams that weren’t yours, or to calm down and be quiet? It’s time we reclaim the entire spectrum of our emotional nature.
Why Should We Embody Our Emotions?
I’m going to let you in on a secret: Your ability to feel is in direct correlation to your ability to receive. When you block your emotions, you are blocking the channels of receptivity. This means that you’re not only living a life that is not authentically you because you’re not able to feel your emotions, but you are literally blocking opportunities to abundance. So you are blocking romantic opportunities, collaborations, friendships, wealth, success, and more wonderful things.
A lot of things changed in my life when I committed to connecting with and safely expressing my emotions. First, a lot had to fall away. I left the marriage that was unaligned and unhealthy for both of us. I stopped blacking out and having rage attacks. I didn’t need to have temper tantrums anymore. Old people, places, and things that did not serve me dissolved. But as I grew more in touch with my true emotions, the old stuck ones began to dissolve as well. I grew lighter, more open, and more joyful. These are all feelings that raise our frequency and help us attract more good to ourselves.
Apart from anger management, I used sacred rage and temper tantrum practices to help me get in touch with these parts of myself. Sisters, I invite you to commit to a practice like this if you want to begin safely embodying your emotions. What would it look like if you didn’t feel so out of control? Could you learn to deal with difficult emotions instead of letting them overtake you? Whether you go to a therapist, group counseling, a coach, or a spiritual mentor, you are so worth asking for support. You don’t need to do it alone.
While you may not have ever hit someone or broken something due to repressed anger, there’s likely still anger down there. You might have anger from not being seen as a child, anger from not being loved, or anger at the kids that made fun of you growing up. Maybe you’re angry at your mom because she didn’t pay attention to you, angry at that person who bullied you, or angry at the person who gave you unwanted physical advances when you were too vulnerable to stand up for yourself. Where is your anger living?
You have the right to be angry. You just have to learn what to do with your feelings. Express what wants to be felt and embody it from your toes all the way to the tips of your fingers and out the top of your head. That’s embodiment. When we actually let that expression course through our body, it no longer has any power over us.
Life on the Other Side of Repression
When we stop being overcome with unexpressed feelings, we stop leaking our power. And when we’re filled up with power, we’re able to finally experience the really juicy emotions. In doing so, we open our capacity to receive all types of abundance.
Aren’t you ready for that? Aren’t you ready to dive deeper into that expression of you that expands beyond all limits you thought you had? Imagine having the feeling of being wildly wealthy. Sure, maybe you’ve done your money mindset work, but until you drop some of that old baggage, you’re still blocking what you could be receiving.
How would this experience of being a wildly wealthy woman make you feel and behave? How would you then move through your day? Would you make eye contact? Would your shoulders be back and would your heart chakra be open? Would you dance? Would you flow? Would you be creative? Even if you can’t imagine it yet, try to imagine what it would feel like if you did. How about if you felt sexually ecstatic, brimming with electric energy, the type that draws opportunities towards you? What if you felt that alive?
Imagine being in a relationship with a twin flame or a sacred partner. Imagine not blaming your partner for your feelings and instead being able to take accountability for them. Consider how it might look when you don’t fly off the handle or crumble into a sad ball when someone at work pushes your buttons. Consider how you might navigate a family dinner when you’re able to contain challenging emotions. Envision how freer you’ll be when you can go and claim the good that’s waiting for you, instead of spending so much time managing seemingly out of control experiences.
Sisters, are you ready? If you are, please don’t hesitate to join The Abundant Life Experience. I’ve helped thousands of women connect to and express their emotions, including rage, in sacred ways. Your birthright is empowered abundance — don’t waste it.
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I love you. I see you. Cheers to the collective healing of self-expression and the sacred right to feel. And remember — always choose happiness because, well, why the fuck not?
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In Today’s Episode You Will Learn:
- What happens when you’re not taught how to feel your feelings
- My journey around suppressing emotions and why I put myself into anger management
- The importance of learning how to feel, embody, and respond to our emotions and feelings
- Navigating through the lower frequency feelings such as anger, sadness, scared, etc
- What happened when I learned to embrace my feelings and got into alignment with them
- How you can start identifying where your anger stems from
- Ways you can start learning how to express your feelings in a healthy and aligned way
- The difference between giving yourself the gift of feeling into your sensuality and working on your sexuality
- Ways to start feeling, expressing, and embodying your wealthiest most aligned version of yourself
- How to open up to the idea of going deeper into your feelings and emotions
- What is a sacred rage practice and how it can fully shift your life, business, and relationship
- How learning how to feel correlates directly with learning how to receive