Hey, sister! Welcome back to a Taylored Adventure to Happiness. If you are new, welcome! If you are a regular, I love ya, I love ya, I love ya!
Have you ever sat down to journal or create something for your tribe and felt like your brain was completely blank? You just didn’t have anything on your heart, screaming, “Gosh, I know my people need to hear this!” That happened to me today. And it’s funny, right? Because sometimes I’ve got like a million ideas and downloads of what to talk about, and some days I sit down, and there’s nothing!
On those days — the days where there’s nothing — I choose to pause and open myself up to receive whatever the Universe has for me. Eventually, something comes. Every single time something comes through! But, sis, I think this applies to more areas of life than just creating content.
So, let me ask you this: How often do we quit or not do something because we’re not inspired? I’m talking about those moments when we don’t have something juicy to say, and we assume it’s not meant to be. How many times have you dipped out before allowing yourself a few minutes in silence to connect with yourself or higher powers?
Babe — microwaves, social media, and Amazon prime, make it so easy to believe that everything should happen quickly, maybe even instantly. But the more I step into a higher version of myself, the more I realize that the magic comes in the moments of sitting in stillness and silence. I ask myself, “Okay, what is meant for me at this moment?” Instead of worrying that I’m uninspired, I will look forward to receiving from the Universe!
If you’ve been wanting instant results and downloads, this message is for you. The ladies in the Abundant Life Experience often tell me that when they first heard of journaling, they felt lost! They would sit down with a blank piece of paper and not know what to write. Through the program, they learned that it’s not about forcing what needs to be written. It’s about allowing what needs to be written. It’s about trading force for flow.
That’s exactly what I’m sharing with you today. So whatever your unmet desires are, bring them to the front of your mind. I’m going to teach you how to align your desires with the Universe to manifest your dreams and what to say to your ego when it tells you you’re not enough.
If you’re ready for this, keep reading!
Why Your Affirmations Aren’t Working
Do you feel like your desires are flowing into your life with ease? Or are you forcing them — working so hard that by the time you finally get what you want, you’re almost too exhausted to enjoy it?
Anytime someone asks, “Why haven’t I achieved my desired results yet?”, I share the analogy of the crazy girlfriend with them. I think we can all relate to being a crazy partner or knowing someone who was. Right? Maybe in college or high school, you wanted your partner to give you more attention than they were giving you.
The “crazy you” freaked out and was like, “Why won’t they pay attention to me? Why won’t they love me? I need them to pay attention to me. What do I need them to do for my partner to say they think I’m pretty and they love me?” Because we loved them so much and our insecurities needed affirmation of their love, we started doing crazy things to force the loving thoughts, words, and actions to happen.
Our anxious needs became lassos that we threw around our partner and started yanking to get them to love us the way we want. No one wants to be lassoed into something — not even a bull — so the partner pulls away. Instead of forcing your partner to love you, “crazy you” forces the partner away. Eventually, all your partner leaves. All your lassoing forced them completely away.
Can you see how this analogy applies to our desires? Let’s say your desires are the partner in the crazy girlfriend analogy. Whether you desire to have a thriving business, call in your ideal client, receive more money, live a life of freedom, or find your life partner, whenever you’re reaching for these things from a place of “not enough,” you’re forcing it — you’re the crazy girlfriend.
All this forcing, lassoing and yanking repels what you want most. You can do all the affirmations in the world and create the most detailed vision board, but as long as you’re coming from a place of “Why isn’t it here yet?”, it won’t come.
Beautiful soul, what I want you to do is think about the area of your life that just isn’t falling into place the way you want. Got it? Now ask yourself, “What energy am I showing up with when I work towards this desired outcome? What expectations am I carrying? In what ways might I be behaving like a crazy girlfriend?”
If nothing comes to you immediately, remember to pause like we talked about earlier. Don’t force anything onto your blank piece of paper. Let it flow to you. It will come.
How to Shift from Force to Flow
Now that we have identified the areas where we’ve been the crazy girlfriend, how do we pivot this? How do we shift from a state of force to a state of flow? For me, it’s a three-step process:
From Force to Flow Step #1: I forgive myself. I acknowledge that I am doing the best I can with what I’ve got. And sometimes I forget how energy works. You can listen to all the podcasts, read all the books, and take all the courses, and still, some days, we forget. From Force to Flow Step #2: I choose to appreciate what is to come. Remember, time is an illusion — it’s the past, present, and future happening simultaneously. So, lean into that. Appreciate the moment you’re in because it’s an opportunity to learn, grow, and guide you to your dreams. Then appreciate your dream as though it is happening now!
From Force to Flow Step #3: I embrace the trust factor. After I choose gratitude, I envision what it’s like to live my dream and who I am as I’m living it. I trust that it’s already happened, and I ask myself, “In this present moment, how do I need to feel and who do I need to become to be the version of myself who is living her dream?” Then, I embody that version of myself.
With that three-step process, I align my thoughts and actions with my desired outcome. No more throwing lassos, coming from a place of not enough, and forcing my dreams. Instead, I envision what I want, I welcome it with appreciation, and it flows to me.
Your Ego Is Strong but You Are Stronger
Once you shift from force to flow and you’re like, “Taylor, I’m totally in. I’m rocking the embodiment and can feel my vibrations rising. I’m ready for this!”, your ego is going to show up. It will be loud, and it will be strong. But you are stronger. So, I’m going to share with you the purpose of your ego and how to partner with it to manifest your reality. Ready? Let’s go!
When you start to take aligned action towards what you want in life, your ego will say things like, “You tried this in the past, and it didn’t work. You don’t have what it takes. What if you try and it takes forever? Everyone will think you’re silly — all your friends will leave.” Heads up: That is 100% going to fuck you up!
We can be all-in, aligned, and keeping our frequencies high, but when that little ego voice in your head starts telling you that you can’t, it can bring everything to a screeching halt. It’s like a needle that pokes a hole in your high-vibe energy-aligned balloon, and everything that’s calling in your desires seeps out.
Here’s what you need to know if you don’t want your ego to have the final say to your goals and dreams: Your ego is a servant to your soul — meaning that its purpose is to help you grow and become aware of doubts, insecurities, traumas, and triggers so you can heal them and live empowered.
From now on when you have disempowering fear-filled thoughts, you need to acknowledge your ego and seek to understand what it’s telling you. Here’s what I say, “Hey Ego, I see you. I know you’re trying to support me in this moment of growth. Why are you responding this way? Where do I need to heal?”
Maybe your mom said you would never be good enough. Or your dad said the only way to make a lot of money was to work really really hard. Or you had an ex tell you that you weren’t worth his time. Therefore, your ego is like, “Hey, remember that time growing up when so-and-so said…” It’s trying to protect you from repeating past wounds, but you’re rewriting the story.
So now your response can be, “Oh, I see where this automatic response is coming from, Ego. Thank you for trying to protect me, but I’m rewriting the story, and I believe differently now.” From there, you get to do the work to heal. Unpack the wounds. Journal through it. Hire a coach.
You were not created to live small. Acknowledge your ego. Seek to understand what it’s telling you. And re-write the story. Your ego is loud and strong, but you are stronger, and the story you write through healing and action is louder.
Why You Need to Pause and Let Go to Manifest Your Dreams…
Because you’re reading to this, I know you’re shifting away from a life of hustle, push, and grind. You’re pivoting into the place of allowing and receiving. I can feel it. Will there be challenges and opportunities for growth along the way? Abso-fucking-lutely, but they’re working for you! Trading force for flow doesn’t mean everything is unicorns and rainbows, and things will magically happen. No, things happen as they are meant to happen. You are going to be given what you desire when you’re supposed to have it — not before or after.
Sometimes we don’t like the timeline, but it’s not up to us. Our only job in this lifetime is to show up fully in our truth and align who with our soul’s mission. The rest is up to the Universe to deliver our desires when it’s meant to be.
If you’re the person that’s caught in a cycle of, “I want to invest, but I don’t have enough money,” That’s your sign. It’s your sign to do something different. When you choose to make this pivot from force to flow, it may be scary. It can feel like walking through a dark hallway. You see the light at the end of the tunnel, but the dark hole is scary — it’s unknown.
Sis, abundance and fun is waiting for you when you get out of your comfort zone. It’s worth being scared, loosening your grip, and taking a pause. Allow yourself to so fully trust the Universe and step into your truth that everything aligns. That’s when you’ll get the front row parking spot, call in your dream clients without sales calls, and meet your soulmate in the most magical way. Before you know it, every time a good thing happens in your life, you’ll be like, “Of course that happened to me!” How great would it be to live life like that?
Let’s make that the new normal: Of course, good things happen to me!
Wow, I can hardly believe that I had nothing when I sat down to create this content for you. It was so much fun to share today because this content just flowed, and I can feel that it truly resonated with some of you. Thanks for taking the journey with me! If you got something out of this today, please pass it along to a friend. Better yet, take a screenshot of it and share it on Instagram. Tag me @iamtaylorshimpon, and let me know what desire you’re going to manifest by stepping out of force and into flow!
It’s a beautiful time to be alive, divine soul. Don’t forget, choose happiness, because, well, why the fuck not?
- My three-step process to shifting from force to flow.
- How to journal when you don’t have anything to write.
- The question you need to ask your ego when you start to feel like a failure.
- How to partner with your ego to manifest your dreams.
- Why your affirmations aren’t working.
- The power of the “pause” and how to practice it.