Hi sister! Welcome back to another episode of A Taylored Adventure to Happiness. If you are new, welcome! If you are a regular, you know I love you! 

Today, we’re going to talk about liberation. What does this word mean to you? Does it mean you have the financial abundance to not only take care of yourself and your loved ones, but also to fulfill your wildest, wealthiest dreams while doing work you absolutely love? Does it mean you’re sexually liberated, able to ask for and receive pleasure from a partner you’re crazy about? 

If you’ve been with me for a while, you know I’m all about abundance on every level, whether it’s through community, love, wealth, or life purpose. But before you can tap into that type of abundance, you need to have freedom within yourself.

The freedom within yourself is what I’m going to talk about today. To me, true liberation means that you are living in alignment with your true desires, your true connection to spirit, and your true self-expression. To do this, you’ll need to release yourself from the burden of other people’s expectations, or — to put it more clearly — free from other people’s judgment, misunderstanding of you, or even rejection of you. Are you with me? Let’s get started!

Why Fearing Judgment Is So 1995

If you’re reading this, you’re on a path to liberation. And if you’re on a path to liberation, a big part of your work is to release old stories around who you are, what your purpose is, why you came here, and what you deserve, among many other things. 

So I have a very particular phrase that I’ll use with my coaching clients when they present what I would call a limiting belief. I’ll say “That is so 1995,” and I’ll complement it with a little smirk and a little eye roll. This is my humorous way of letting them know that they’re wrapped up in thinking that we’re way ahead of now, that the way they’re viewing things is way behind where they are or could be. It always works! The person on the receiving end will laugh a bit, and then they’ll realign and they will realize hey, that is so old news.

One of the beliefs that I’ll always use this approach with is the fear of what other people think. A client will come to me worried about something exciting and aligned that they’re doing, and they’ll have a very distinct hesitation: What will other people think? It’s really interesting also because I’m noticing how much more people are worried about what their family will think, rather than strangers. In any case, someone will be just about to step out of their comfort zone, and bam! This old, crusty fear comes up. 

The thing is, if you’re doing the work, you’re releasing old beliefs about a lot of different things that society values. I’ve done so much of this work myself. I’m on a path of liberating my sexuality, my sensuality, and my divine feminine. To do this, I’ve had to release conditioning from the church, from my family, and from other social constructs which are not aligned and yet which were the very entities that were judging me. If I hadn’t evolved past my fear of their judgment, I would be living according to their belief systems, and I wouldn’t be living this juicy life, embodying my divine feminine and helping thousands of women to connect to it too. 

If you’re a powerful woman tapping into her divine potential, there’s just no room anymore to carry this outdated fear of what people think.

Fearing judgment keeps us trapped and prevents us from evolving, shining our light, and aligning with our life purpose. Yet so many of us (I’ll admit I’ve had to work on this too!) fear being judged because, despite our best intentions, we’re carrying old wounds that we haven’t really looked at yet. 

How to Let Go of Limiting Beliefs

One thing I’ve repeatedly noticed with my clients is that they don’t understand how limiting beliefs work. They don’t understand why they have them in the first place, or why they’ve been keeping them around. 

Limiting beliefs serve a purpose, and they do serve you on some level or you wouldn’t have them around. That doesn’t mean they’re good, but that also doesn’t mean they’re bad. They’re neutral. 

When you understand this, you can then soften your stance toward them to one of compassion and gentleness. It’s this compassion and gentleness that allows you to be curious about them. It’s also what allows you to be soft and allowing,  not to prick up in defense, and to have kindness toward yourself, and toward your limiting beliefs. 

Limiting beliefs are security blankets. They keep you safe — that doesn’t mean they help you achieve all that you could be. You might keep yourself small because you’re afraid of being judged. You might keep yourself quiet because you’re afraid of being rejected. You might keep doing the same old thing that doesn’t fulfill you because you won’t risk failure. Your belief protects you from the risk of emotional pain. 

When you begin to notice this, you can soften toward this belief and say “Yep, I’m done with that now. I’m through with it. Thank you for serving me. I’m now ready to let you go.”

It’s this same stance of compassion that you can then extend to the root of your limiting belief. So let’s say your limiting belief is around rejection. Let’s say it all started when your mom or your dad were rejecting you. Can you begin to have compassion for them? Can you begin to see that their rejection was about them, not you? That they too had a parent who didn’t know how to love or support them? That they are acting that out because of their own issues? You can then see their humanity and be less focused on how much power they seem to have over you. That inner child within you who feels rejected can now see that the adult you give so much importance to is actually a wounded person projecting their issues onto you. That’s the magic there. 

What are your limiting beliefs? I hear all the time that women are afraid to post something on social media because in their mind they’re going to post and it’s going to be crickets. No one is going to like them or follow them. No one will care. Or maybe you’re worried about starting a business, moving to a new country you’ve always wanted to move to, or initiating a conversation with a love interest. 

Once you’ve identified a belief, go to the root of it. Let’s say you’re like the women in my example about social media. Maybe you’re afraid to post on Instagram about your new offering because you’re afraid of rejection.  That rejection makes you feel alone. Being alone makes you feel unloved. Feeling unloved makes you see yourself as unworthy. It makes you feel like you’re not good enough, or like you’re not deserving. So here’s this old, dusty, rusty belief that comes from childhood when you first experienced feeling unworthy, unloved, rejected, and alone. 

So here’s the thing: Because you haven’t looked at the root before, you likely have been repeating that pattern unconsciously over and over again. You may have drawn in the same experiences with the same type of people who reject you, therefore you’ve affirmed to yourself that people reject you. As you have these repeated experiences, you reinforce the idea that you’re unworthy. Then after so many experiences, you say “Well, see what’s the point? When I put myself out there, I get rejected!” You never get to the root of it. 

What would it be like to get to the root of these patterns? To break the cycle? To see that, yeah, you had that experience then but it wasn’t about you. It was about that person. That they were hurting and suffering. All of a sudden you’re no longer seeking confirmation of the same pattern over and over again. You put yourself out there and you’re well-received, and if you aren’t well-received, you don’t take it personally because you know it’s about them, not you. That’s liberation.

What Liberation Looks Like

Freeing yourself from the burden of other people’s opinions of you is truly liberating. I can’t say that enough. There will always be someone who doesn’t appreciate you. There will always be someone who doesn’t get you. You can’t please everyone. I know these are phrases we hear again and again, so much that they almost lose their meaning, but they’re true.

When you clear out the muck of other people’s judgments or what we think are other people’s judgments, we become clear channels. We open up our connection to the divine. We open to our higher selves to our divine purpose and to the abundance that the universe wants to give to us. We receive the downloads and the divine inspiration that wants to flow through us for our good and for the good of the planet.

When we release our fears around rejection and judgment, we naturally raise our vibrations. If you’ve been with me for a while, you know what that means! When we transcend fear, we move into love. When we move into the frequency of love, we’re in the frequency of receiving!. Remember, abundance manifests in infinite ways. 

When we take back our power from other people — from friends, family, the past, the future — we step back into the present moment and to what matters most. We open up to divine support, and we realize that we’re exactly where we’re meant to be. We affirm that we’re fully supported. This means that the people we’re meant to meet, the collaborations we’re meant to have, and the wealth we’re supposed to enjoy, can finally connect to us. Life gets really fucking juicy when you make it to the other side of this. Aren’t you ready for it?

If you enjoyed this episode, don’t hesitate to let me know! Tag me at @iamtaylorsimpson on Instagram with a screenshot of the attack and your greatest takeaways! 

I love you. I see you. Cheers to stepping into your power and liberating your divine potential. And remember — always choose happiness because, well, why the fuck not?

In Today’s Episode You Will Learn:  

• What my journey of liberation has looked like
• Navigating through the fear of judgment and caring what people say or think
• What happens when you move past the fear of judgment from strangers but now you fear judgment from friends and family
• What is the concept of 1995 and understanding your “so 1995” belief 
• How have your current beliefs been serving you, good or bad
• Understanding where your current belief system came from
• How to start noticing and breaking repeating patterns in your life
• What happens when you liberate yourself from your life’s patterns