Hey, sister! Welcome back to a Taylored Adventure to Happiness. If you are new, welcome! If you are a regular, I love ya, I love ya, I love ya!
Sister, I want you to take a moment to think of the people around you. On this journey of ascension, do you have friends that are there to support you and love you? Do you have sisters that will understand as you do the work to ascend to higher frequencies? Are you surrounded by strong women who are awake to the possibilities of living in 5D?
If your answer is “no,” then you need to find them! These soul sisters are such an important part of your path to abundance. You absolutely need that community to thrive. The good news? They are all around you — you just need to know where to look.
If you feel an absence of these soul-sisters in your life, I get it. I have definitely been there. For a long time, I had friends who were out of alignment with me — friends who I met in kindergarten who just weren’t on the same chapter of life as me anymore.
I remember when I was in that place, I would always look up to the women who had found their tribe of soul-sisters. It was so visible how they got along and communicated so well, loving and supporting each other. I wanted that so badly. And I finally found them. Want to know how? Well, that’s what today’s episode is all about!
Sister, I am so excited about this episode because today I am chatting with a bunch of my soul-sisters in Tulum, Mexico! We had an amazing conversation as we shared how we found each other and became best friends. Each of us shares our wounds, and we get raw and vulnerable about where we have come from and how we have shown up to call each other into an abundant community.
If you are in the process of looking to call in your conscious soul-sisters who will thrive with you and have the deep conversations you need to ascend, I know this chat will light you up and give you so much value. So let’s dive in, shall we?
Preparing to Call Your Soul-Sisters into Your Life
Sister, finding a community of people who really get you doesn’t usually just happen randomly. Like most good things leading to an abundant life, it often takes doing the fucking work. It takes opening yourself up to a place where you are ready to call these sisters into your life. After all, if you’re not ready for these relationships, how can you manifest them?
The first thing that you need to do in order to open up space for your soul-sisters is to be aware of the relationships that are currently in your life. Are you being honest with yourself about what you want in these relationships? Are you compromising your values for the sake of maintaining a friendship?
Sometimes, it’s easy to continue a relationship that isn’t serving us or isn’t in alignment with our values simply because we have been in that relationship for a long time. But sister, having relationships that don’t align with who you want to be can hinder you from cultivating the relationships that will help you thrive!
To manifest the soul-sister relationships that you desire, you first have to become aware of the energies of the people who are currently in your life. How do they make you feel? What kind of energy does the relationship have? Is it full of drama or negativity? Does the person in the relationship fully support you? Be aware of what kind of people you are attracting into your life.
Sister, if you need to change the kind of people you are attracting, take ownership of it! You can let people go from your life gently with love. Certain relationships are not meant to last forever. They were in your life at a specific time for a reason. They were meant to teach you something. That doesn’t mean that they were meant to stay.
Honor the soul-contract that they had in your life as a gift. Appreciate what they have taught you, and then let them go. Allow yourself to hold space to welcome someone new. This is the first step to finding the people that will be your tribe and match your frequencies — the soul- sisters that will journey with you to be #AbudantAF!
Once you have reflected and examined your current relationships, there is another step to attracting the soul-sisters that you need for an abundant life. This is the shadow work. If you don’t embrace your shadow self, you’re only going to manifest friendships with others who aren’t embracing their shadow selves.
Sister, you must become the person that you expect to receive, and you can do this by healing your childhood wounds. My sisters and I talked all about how to do this, and it can be some pretty heavy stuff. But trust me, it’s so important. You have to do the shadow work to embody the version of your future self that has her tribe. This way, your frequencies can begin to match that “future you,” and you can start calling in those matching women.
Healing Your Shadow Self
If you know me, you know I’m all about doing the shadow work to heal past wounds. Can you remember a time when you were hurt by someone when you were young? Did you get bullied by other girls or were you left out at a slumber party? However small these events may seem to us now, they were traumatic experiences to the little-girl you — they sometimes felt like the end of the fucking world.
There is no such thing as “too small” a trauma. That hurtful side comment from a friend or the gossip about you behind your back can feel like absolute tragedies to our little-girl selves. And they can build into wounds that might haunt us for many years.
Doing that shadow work begins with thinking about those things that the younger you has been told. Was she told that she was a drama queen? A brat or a slut? Think about the things you have been told not to love about yourself, the things you have shoved under the rug. Then, heal them. Love them. You are meant to love those shadow sides. They are a gift to teach you something, not a burden to hide away.
Sister, when you do the work to embrace your shadow self, you will have the high-frequency energy that you need to find your tribe. Reflect the energy that you want your soul-sisters to have — mirror it. You will receive the frequencies that you project.
What does this look like? Well, if you want women around you to support you, that means that you need to support them! If you want women around you to love you for exactly who you are, then you need to love them for everything they are. If you want your tribe of soul-sisters to heal their wounds and embrace their shadow sides, you have to do the fucking same!
If you do the work to honor your shadow self, you will manifest soul-sisters in your life that will have done the same. Re-connect with the little-girl version of you who received the wounds and give her lots of love. You may have been neglecting her, causing more inner pain and blocking aligned women from loving you.
So you’ve done the shadow work and you feel ready to find the women that you will call your tribe. What’s next? My soul-sisters and I came up with some great practical ways to start calling your sisters into your life. These are amazing ways to start taking empowered action, and I know you will get so much value out of applying them!
How to Take Action to Find Your High-Vibe Sisterhood
Sister, you know I’m all about journaling. That’s why the first tip that we wanted to share with you today requires some paper and a pen. Do you like making lists? Maybe you’ve created a list of your dream house, dream job, or dream romantic partner. It might seem strange to make a list of your “dream friend,” but that’s exactly what you need to do!
Write out exactly what you want in a female relationship, just like you would with a romantic partner. Get clear about the qualities you want her to have and how you want her to make you feel so that the universe knows what to deliver!
What kind of energy do you want to feel in the friendship? Getting crystal clear about this can help you embody the kind of soul-sister that you want to attract. It can also make it easy to sense when a friendship is not going to be in alignment with who you are! It’s okay to move on if someone doesn’t fit the list. There’s nothing wrong with that. You want people in your tribe that completely match your frequency!
After making your list (and being sure to stick to it relentlessly!) comes the part that requires a little courage. Yep, this is the part where you just fucking put yourself out there. That’s the beauty of this little app I like to call Instagram.
It just takes one simple DM. Reach out to babes who inspire you and introduce yourself. Send them a voice message saying how much you love what they are doing and that you want to get to know them! Trust me, I know it’s scary. Everyone is afraid of rejection. But if you don’t try, you are letting the fear run the show.
Instead of falling into that fear, figure out its source. Breath deep into it and ask yourself, “Why am I so afraid to be rejected?”That might just bring you back to the shadow work if you let it! And sister, if you DM someone and they think it’s weird, that’s their issue. Remember, a person’s judgment says more about them than it does about you.
Aside from Instagram, another way to take action to find your soul sisters is to get into the “rooms” that you know they are in. Whether this is a mastermind program, a conference, or a coaching experience like The Abundant Life Experience or Ascend, it pays to get into the right places where you can find the right people.
Sister, there’s nothing wrong with paying to get into these places — you are investing in yourself and the abundant life that you are ascending into! Let me tell you — it’s so fucking worth it. Many of the amazing women with me today have paid to be in those rooms and find each other, and it’s led to some incredible relationships that are worth all of the money in the world!
Why You Should Listen to This Soul-Sister Jam Right Now…
This was such an incredible conversation with my empowered, aligned soul-sisters. I’m so excited to share it with you! Don’t forget to tune in and listen to the full episode so that you can hear all that these beautiful women had to share about how they cultivated these high-vibe, aligned relationships.
I’m so happy I found this sisterhood, and I know you can find yours! It takes self-reflection, shadow work, and some fearless action to get there, but I am confident you can do it. Only a year ago, we were all on different journeys, but through investments and saying “yes” to ourselves, our paths crossed. So grab a chair and join us at the table. This conversation is one you don’t want to miss.
And if this episode hit home for you and helped you on your journey to find your soul-sisters, please don’t hesitate to share it with a loved one and tag me on Instagram, @iamtaylorsimpson! By paying it forward, you could help other women in your life who are also looking to call in their soul sisters to learn just like you did!
As always, I see you. I love you. And remember to always choose happiness because, well, why the fuck not?
- Make space for quality, like-minded, female friendships
- Become self-aware of what you’re attracting
- Appreciating your soul contracts of extinct friendships
- Letting go of expectations from certain friendships
- Analyze how you feel around certain groups
- Communicating your feelings and reasonings
- What “doing the inner work” means
- How to reach out and connect with new girls